Well-Being Posts - Encouragement for Everyday - Jennifer A Douglas https://jenniferadouglas.com/category/well-being/ Author and DCIS Patient Advocate Fri, 27 Jun 2025 18:37:57 +0000 en-US hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=6.9.4 https://jenniferadouglas.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/10/cropped-JAD-Submark-2022-ltpink-32x32.png Well-Being Posts - Encouragement for Everyday - Jennifer A Douglas https://jenniferadouglas.com/category/well-being/ 32 32 173738246 Protecting and Preserving Your Well-Being https://jenniferadouglas.com/protecting-and-preserving-your-well-being/ https://jenniferadouglas.com/protecting-and-preserving-your-well-being/#comments Fri, 27 Jun 2025 18:37:55 +0000 https://jenniferadouglas.com/?p=5841 How do we protect and preserve our well-being during seasons of uncertainty and challenge? Sharing some helpful strategies and reflections in this post.

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]]> https://jenniferadouglas.com/protecting-and-preserving-your-well-being/feed/ 2 5841 Medical Anxiety https://jenniferadouglas.com/medical-anxiety/ https://jenniferadouglas.com/medical-anxiety/#respond Tue, 01 Apr 2025 18:10:40 +0000 https://jenniferadouglas.com/?p=5627 Medical anxiety doesn’t always end when treatment does. Sometimes it sneaks in during follow-up appointments, scan results, or even when supporting a loved one. In this post, I’m sharing how it showed up for me—and the tools I reach for when it does.

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]]> https://jenniferadouglas.com/medical-anxiety/feed/ 0 5627 When Good Results Don’t Feel Good https://jenniferadouglas.com/when-good-results-dont-feel-good/ https://jenniferadouglas.com/when-good-results-dont-feel-good/#respond Sat, 29 Mar 2025 23:10:28 +0000 https://jenniferadouglas.com/?p=5614 The scan results were in, and they were good. So why didn’t we feel the joy? We were overwhelmed, exhausted, and still had questions. This was supposed to be the finish line. Or was it?

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]]> https://jenniferadouglas.com/when-good-results-dont-feel-good/feed/ 0 5614 Radiation, Again: Not the Journey We Expected https://jenniferadouglas.com/radiation-again-not-the-journey-we-expected/ https://jenniferadouglas.com/radiation-again-not-the-journey-we-expected/#comments Mon, 04 Nov 2024 18:44:28 +0000 https://jenniferadouglas.com/?p=5454 Radiation…again. This was not the journey we expected, especially as we approach the holiday season. And yet, here we are, orchestrating our days again around daily treatments.  But, this time, it isn’t for me but for Dave.   It took months to get to an accurate diagnosis.  I won’t go into the nightmare here right now, but the short version is that the skin cancer on his ear had been misdiagnosed for the entire year. Finally, at the end of August, he got the real diagnosis.  It was extensive skin cancer that had infiltrated through all layers of his skin, cartilage, and perhaps into the back of his ear. Wounds don’t close when they are cancerous.  Cancer Decision-Making & Planning While on Vacation It didn’t matter what we felt; Dave needed to make a decision. As frustrated and angry as we both were on the journey to a diagnosis, there was no way to go back. Many hours were spent on the 405 getting down to his new care team, unpacking the treatment options, and living from moment to moment, never knowing when the latest bit of bad news was going to come via MyChart or over the phone. His options were surgery in the operating room because- it was too extensive to be treated with Moh’s or radiation.  For some types of skin cancer, radiation can be curative.  The surgeon recommended that Dave seek a second opinion with the radiation oncology team and see if that would be another treatment option. Before we left for France, he had two consultations with the radiation oncology team, who were very confident in the effectiveness of that treatment plan. After those consultations,  Dave was leaning towards surgery.  We left for our vacation to France with a surgery date on the calendar. Then, we kept noticing more changes on the skin.  More areas were bubbling and bleeding.  Was the cancer more widespread? We sent photos and messaged his team from France. With the possible increase in the scope of his cancer, he needed more appointments and possibly more biopsies. Communication was disjointed and hampered with the time change. We needed to get on the phone several evenings to schedule appointments and get our questions answered.   Once the appointments were scheduled, there was nothing more to do except enjoy our vacation (and try not to have too much cancer anxiety) The Change from Surgery to Radiation We returned from vacation, relaxed, jet-lagged, and dove back into cancer decision-making.   The cancer was much more widespread than it had appeared to be. Instead of removing a small section of the ear, leaving a pathway for reconstruction, the surgeon intended to amputate the top two-thirds of the ear to remove the cancer with clear margins. There wasn’t going to be anything left to reconstruct. We were horrified.  As Dave discussed possible reconstruction options with the plastic surgeon, it became clear that radiating was the only way to preserve any cosmesis. We left the appointment, rode the elevator downstairs, and let the radiation team know that he’d decided on radiation. Newly Diagnosed? Grab my Free Workbook! Cancer is overwhelming, and sometimes it is hard to keep track of all of the details.  If you’d like to explore my free workbook, sign up here and I’ll sent it over to you! GET YOURS HERE From Treatment Decision to Radiation Mapping in Less Than 24 Hours We had just returned home after slogging through LA traffic when Dave’s phone rang.  The local radiation office, where he would be treated, had a mapping and planning appointment the following day. Less than 24 hours after making a treatment decision, he was lying down on the radiation table getting his mask fitted. There was no more cancer-decision anxiety but plenty of shared treatment anxiety to go around. Reflections on the Radiation Journey So Far As we have been walking through this, I’ve been reflecting on my social media accounts (@mmejendouglas).   Here are some of my radiation reflections thus far. On the Eve of Treatment: Cancer doesn’t take a vacation. As we were enjoying our time in Nice, we were also dealing with cancer decisions. Tomorrow, Dave begins radiation treatment for skin cancer on his ear. It will be a long treatment regime, as the cancer is widespread and has penetrated much of his ear, including the cartilage. He will have 33 treatments.   Radiation offers him the opportunity to preserve the ear. The surgical option was an amputation. As I navigate the waters of caregiver and not patient, I remember my own radiation experience. The anxiety is present and real. So is the sleep deprivation. Tomorrow, Dave’s treatment begins. Cancer is hard. The decisions are not easy. Neither one seemed like a good choice. It took many appointments for Dave to unpack the options and make his choice. Now, his treatment journey begins. Day One: It’s been five years since my radiation treatment. Today was day one for my husband. His treatment will go for a total of 33 treatments. This is going to be a long haul. I am exhausted & weary. My lived experience reminds me the side effects will be cumulative. Cancer is hard. Week One Reflection:  About this week… It was hard. So much about Dave starting radiation was activating. I remember what it was like to be alone in a room while the radiation hit me. Doing it over and over again seared both my skin and also my soul. It’s hard to watch him experience it. The impact on his skin, his body, and his mental well-being is real.  As we began to settle into a new routine this week, I realized my repeating calendar events weren’t serving me. I’m not really sure when I’ll be up to writing or laundry or other things. Rather than having those reminders of pre-treatment life sitting on my calendar, talking to me, I threw them out. Right now, we have a different pace. And that’s what life needs today.  Slower. Gentler. Calmer. One week down.  Five and a half to go. Week Two: Week 2 of radiation treatment is done for Dave. We are settling into a routine, and he is tolerating the treatment. Unfortunately, the office was running behind schedule for most of the week, so the round trips took longer…  It isn’t fun, and the skin impacts are real. This week was full of non-cancer challenges (a blocked sewer drain), which added complexity and challenge. We are already emotionally drained and then to have the house problem on top of it wasn’t fun. It got fixed quickly by our awesome plumbers, and we moved on. I’m grateful for the quick resolution to a frustrating problem.  Watching the Dodgers win the World Series was amazing! I am a huge baseball fan and watched almost the entire Dodgers postseason. It was such a wonderful and joyful moment to share with Dave and Ken! We are heading into the weekend, which means two days off treatment! Yay! Week 3: Day One The week has begun again, and so does treatment. I woke up with a feeling of dread, knowing that he has five more to go this week.  Today will mark one-third done.   So many more to go. The journey continues.

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]]> https://jenniferadouglas.com/radiation-again-not-the-journey-we-expected/feed/ 2 5454 What is it Like to Get a Skin Biopsy for (potential) Skin Cancer— on your nose? https://jenniferadouglas.com/skin-biopsy/ https://jenniferadouglas.com/skin-biopsy/#comments Fri, 31 May 2024 23:01:09 +0000 https://jenniferadouglas.com/?p=5335 What is it like to get a skin biopsy for a suspicious lesion on your nose? Here's how to be prepared for what might happen during your appointment.

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]]> https://jenniferadouglas.com/skin-biopsy/feed/ 1 5335 Slowing Down for More Productivity and Peace https://jenniferadouglas.com/slowing-down-for-more-productivity-and-peace/ https://jenniferadouglas.com/slowing-down-for-more-productivity-and-peace/#respond Fri, 12 Apr 2024 14:00:00 +0000 https://jenniferadouglas.com/?p=5178 Escaping and slowing down is hard. Our always-on apps, notifications, and expectations to respond so quickly to everything don’t help. We are dancing on the line between being productive and stressed out. It is important to slow down when looking for peace.

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]]> https://jenniferadouglas.com/slowing-down-for-more-productivity-and-peace/feed/ 0 5178 Feeling Overwhelmed? How to Carve Out Peace During Challenging Seasons https://jenniferadouglas.com/feeling-overwhelmed/ https://jenniferadouglas.com/feeling-overwhelmed/#respond Fri, 08 Mar 2024 17:51:23 +0000 https://jenniferadouglas.com/?p=5108 Some seasons in our lives are overwhelming. How can we carve out peace and maintain some semblance of well-being when life feels so challenging?

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]]> https://jenniferadouglas.com/feeling-overwhelmed/feed/ 0 5108 Living in the Pause: In-Between Journeys https://jenniferadouglas.com/living-in-the-pause-in-between-journeys/ https://jenniferadouglas.com/living-in-the-pause-in-between-journeys/#comments Thu, 27 Jul 2023 22:13:22 +0000 https://jenniferadouglas.com/?p=4786 What is it like to live in the pause? What if we are in-between journeys? Why does it feel so uncomfortable? Aren't we supposed to celebrate the end and then ride that emotional wave to the next journey?

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]]> https://jenniferadouglas.com/living-in-the-pause-in-between-journeys/feed/ 2 4786 Fatigue is a Signal: Are We Listening? https://jenniferadouglas.com/fatigue-is-a-signal/ https://jenniferadouglas.com/fatigue-is-a-signal/#comments Sat, 11 Mar 2023 01:09:31 +0000 https://jenniferadouglas.com/?p=4079 Fatigue is talking to us. It is a signal that we ought to pay attention to. But are we? Are we taking the time to listen to its message and then decode it?

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]]> https://jenniferadouglas.com/fatigue-is-a-signal/feed/ 2 4079 Colonoscopy Prep: What is it like and how to get through it as comfortably as possible https://jenniferadouglas.com/colonoscopy-prep/ https://jenniferadouglas.com/colonoscopy-prep/#comments Sat, 19 Nov 2022 00:24:27 +0000 https://jenniferadouglas.com/?p=3883 If you are over 45, it's time to schedule your colonoscopy. Here is what the preparation was like and how I got through it!

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]]> https://jenniferadouglas.com/colonoscopy-prep/feed/ 16 3883 Confessions of an Anxious Traveler: Is It Possible to Avoid the Pre-Vacation Panic? https://jenniferadouglas.com/avoid-the-pre-vacation-panic/ https://jenniferadouglas.com/avoid-the-pre-vacation-panic/#comments Fri, 19 Aug 2022 14:00:00 +0000 https://jenniferadouglas.com/?p=3375 I have a confession to make. I am an anxious traveler. There, I said it. Beneath the smiling faces I share in the photos, there can be an undercurrent of panic and anxiety. Sometimes I think I like the idea of traveling rather than the actual traveling part. I’m especially prone to pre-vacation panic.

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]]> https://jenniferadouglas.com/avoid-the-pre-vacation-panic/feed/ 2 3375 Fatigue Strategies: What Size Battery are You Today? https://jenniferadouglas.com/fatigue-strategies-what-size-battery-are-you-today/ https://jenniferadouglas.com/fatigue-strategies-what-size-battery-are-you-today/#respond Tue, 21 Jun 2022 14:30:00 +0000 https://jenniferadouglas.com/?p=3340 Communicating our fatigue level can be challenging. How do we make the invisible, visible? Let's use batteries as a visual aid!

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]]> https://jenniferadouglas.com/fatigue-strategies-what-size-battery-are-you-today/feed/ 0 3340 Specialized Walks for Creativity, Connection, and Cooling Off https://jenniferadouglas.com/specialized-walks-for-creativity-connection-and-cooling-off/ https://jenniferadouglas.com/specialized-walks-for-creativity-connection-and-cooling-off/#respond Tue, 14 Jun 2022 14:30:00 +0000 https://jenniferadouglas.com/?p=3333 Specialized walks for inspiring creativity, building connection, or cooling off emotionally are important to have in our well-being toolbox.

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]]> https://jenniferadouglas.com/specialized-walks-for-creativity-connection-and-cooling-off/feed/ 0 3333 Four Feeling Books: Understanding and Voicing Our Emotions https://jenniferadouglas.com/four-feeling-books/ https://jenniferadouglas.com/four-feeling-books/#respond Fri, 01 Apr 2022 23:57:07 +0000 https://jenniferadouglas.com/?p=3265 These four feeling books will help us understand and voice our emotions, especially as we navigate the emotional challenges of cancer.

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]]> https://jenniferadouglas.com/four-feeling-books/feed/ 0 3265 Recovery Process for my Herniated Disc https://jenniferadouglas.com/recovery-process-herniated-disc/ https://jenniferadouglas.com/recovery-process-herniated-disc/#comments Wed, 02 Mar 2022 23:03:51 +0000 https://jenniferadouglas.com/?p=3203 The recovery process for my herniated disc has been a long one. I can’t believe I’m still dealing with symptoms nearly a year after the problem began. I fondly remember when I would fall and scrape my knee as a child. After a few days of pain, I’d be back to my normal activities.

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]]> https://jenniferadouglas.com/recovery-process-herniated-disc/feed/ 3 3203 Reunited: A Thanksgiving Reflection on Parenting https://jenniferadouglas.com/thanksgiving-reflection-on-parenting/ https://jenniferadouglas.com/thanksgiving-reflection-on-parenting/#respond Wed, 24 Nov 2021 16:29:32 +0000 https://jenniferadouglas.com/?p=2868 Thanksgiving reflection on the purpose of parenting, savoring the moments, and the joy of reunification. It is worth it.

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]]> https://jenniferadouglas.com/thanksgiving-reflection-on-parenting/feed/ 0 2868 Persisting Towards a Diagnosis: From Carpal Tunnel to a Herniated Disc https://jenniferadouglas.com/persisting-towards-a-diagnosis-from-carpal-tunnel-to-a-herniated-disc/ https://jenniferadouglas.com/persisting-towards-a-diagnosis-from-carpal-tunnel-to-a-herniated-disc/#respond Thu, 09 Sep 2021 18:22:37 +0000 https://jenniferadouglas.com/?p=2782 Adventures in Self-Advocacy-- The real reason my fingers were numb was a herniated disc in my spine, not carpal tunnel.

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]]> https://jenniferadouglas.com/persisting-towards-a-diagnosis-from-carpal-tunnel-to-a-herniated-disc/feed/ 0 2782 Dressing Beautifully: Finding your Signature Item https://jenniferadouglas.com/signature-item/ https://jenniferadouglas.com/signature-item/#respond Fri, 09 Apr 2021 11:00:00 +0000 https://jenniferadouglas.com/?p=2547 One aspect of dressing beautifully is finding a signature item to wear that adds a personal touch to your outfits. This item should support your lifestyle, be significant to you, and make you smile.

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]]> https://jenniferadouglas.com/signature-item/feed/ 0 2547 Recognizing Anxiety and Returning to Calm https://jenniferadouglas.com/recognizing-anxiety/ https://jenniferadouglas.com/recognizing-anxiety/#comments Fri, 02 Apr 2021 11:00:00 +0000 https://jenniferadouglas.com/?p=2527 Over the last several weeks, I’ve recognized that my anxiety has resurfaced. My mental well-being has been challenged of late through a combination of personal habits and circumstances. I want to share what I’m doing to be more aware of the presence of anxiety and how I’m addressing it.  

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]]> https://jenniferadouglas.com/recognizing-anxiety/feed/ 1 2527 Five Reasons I’m Focusing on Fitness After Breast Cancer Treatment https://jenniferadouglas.com/fitness-after-breast-cancer-treatment/ https://jenniferadouglas.com/fitness-after-breast-cancer-treatment/#respond Fri, 26 Mar 2021 11:00:00 +0000 https://jenniferadouglas.com/?p=2506 I have been focusing on my fitness now that I’m done with breast cancer treatment. Here are five reasons that I have been exercising more after breast cancer.

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]]> https://jenniferadouglas.com/fitness-after-breast-cancer-treatment/feed/ 0 2506 Faire Une Petite Pause- The Power of Little Breaks https://jenniferadouglas.com/faire-une-petite-pause/ https://jenniferadouglas.com/faire-une-petite-pause/#respond Fri, 19 Mar 2021 11:00:00 +0000 https://jenniferadouglas.com/?p=2479 Little breaks throughout our workday can help us to refocus our brains. There is a French expression- “faire une petite pause” that emphasizes the active nature of this break and reminds us that we will return to work after just a little pause.  



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]]> https://jenniferadouglas.com/faire-une-petite-pause/feed/ 0 2479 Caregiving Tips: Create a Recovery Basket https://jenniferadouglas.com/recovery-basket/ https://jenniferadouglas.com/recovery-basket/#respond Fri, 12 Mar 2021 12:00:00 +0000 https://jenniferadouglas.com/?p=2464 A recovery basket is a centralized place to keep all of the necessary supplies and medications needed during the recovery period. It is a place to keep the notes from the doctor and keep track of medicine dosing.

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]]> https://jenniferadouglas.com/recovery-basket/feed/ 0 2464 Dressing Beautifully Every Day for Well-Being https://jenniferadouglas.com/dressing-beautifully/ https://jenniferadouglas.com/dressing-beautifully/#respond Tue, 23 Feb 2021 12:00:00 +0000 https://jenniferadouglas.com/?p=2360 One of the things that I try to do every day to support my well-being is to dress beautifully. It is a small thing that I do to support my overall well-being. 

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]]> https://jenniferadouglas.com/dressing-beautifully/feed/ 0 2360 Couples Walks: How to Stay Connected Through Challenging Times https://jenniferadouglas.com/couples-walks/ https://jenniferadouglas.com/couples-walks/#comments Tue, 09 Feb 2021 12:00:00 +0000 https://jenniferadouglas.com/?p=2222 Long couples walks are something that my husband and I do regularly each weekend. It is a way for us to stay connected through challenging times. Additionally, it helps us maintain our fitness while we’re talking through whatever is on our minds.



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]]> https://jenniferadouglas.com/couples-walks/feed/ 2 2222 AppleWatch and Breast Cancer- How I Used my AppleWatch to Monitor my Recovery https://jenniferadouglas.com/applewatch-and-breast-cancer/ https://jenniferadouglas.com/applewatch-and-breast-cancer/#respond Fri, 08 Jan 2021 12:00:00 +0000 https://jenniferadouglas.com/?p=2101 Throughout my breast cancer diagnosis and treatment, I used my AppleWatch to keep an eye on my physical and mental well-being.

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]]> https://jenniferadouglas.com/applewatch-and-breast-cancer/feed/ 0 2101 Christmas Reflection : Release, Reconsider, Renew https://jenniferadouglas.com/christmas-reflection/ https://jenniferadouglas.com/christmas-reflection/#respond Fri, 25 Dec 2020 12:00:00 +0000 https://jenniferadouglas.com/?p=1963 Merry Christmas! This 2020 Holiday season has been unlike any other. The pandemic has changed the way we can celebrate. As this year draws to a close, I reflect on how we have needed to release our expectations and reconsider meaning in our lives. It is my hope that we can take this Christmas and Holiday season and find a way to renew our spirits even through the dark days.

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]]> https://jenniferadouglas.com/christmas-reflection/feed/ 0 1963 Have Fun Today! https://jenniferadouglas.com/have-fun-today/ https://jenniferadouglas.com/have-fun-today/#comments Fri, 23 Oct 2020 11:00:00 +0000 https://jenniferadouglas.com/?p=1625 Having fun is an important part of our well being. I want to encourage you to do something fun today! Here is how to build fun into your day.

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]]> https://jenniferadouglas.com/have-fun-today/feed/ 2 1625 A Retreat from the Chaos https://jenniferadouglas.com/a-retreat-from-the-chaos/ https://jenniferadouglas.com/a-retreat-from-the-chaos/#comments Tue, 13 Oct 2020 11:00:00 +0000 https://jenniferadouglas.com/?p=1488 Sometimes we need to retreat from the chaos of our days. When you’ve just about had enough, what do you do? Do you have a retreat?

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]]> https://jenniferadouglas.com/a-retreat-from-the-chaos/feed/ 2 1488 3 Steps to Cultivate Contentment https://jenniferadouglas.com/3-steps-to-cultivate-contentment/ https://jenniferadouglas.com/3-steps-to-cultivate-contentment/#respond Tue, 06 Oct 2020 11:00:00 +0000 https://jenniferadouglas.com/?p=1533 I have three steps to share which will help you cultivate contentment in your life. These are easy practices that can improve your wellbeing.

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]]> https://jenniferadouglas.com/3-steps-to-cultivate-contentment/feed/ 0 1533 Ask For Help When You Need It! https://jenniferadouglas.com/ask-for-help/ https://jenniferadouglas.com/ask-for-help/#comments Tue, 15 Sep 2020 11:00:00 +0000 https://jenniferadouglas.com/?p=1383 How are you doing about asking for help? Do you ask your family for help when you need it? Or do you go into martyr mode and get grumpy?

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